do you remember when you were a teenager, how fast you anger at your parents' sickening desire to tear open and devour your letters or diaries. they often claimed that it's an honest mistake. bullshit. whatever it was, not that we had something to hide, we just didnt like our privacy poked into.

so as we grow up, fall in love and become parents ourselves, why are we too burning with desire to pry into our loved ones' life? they said it's prevention. preventing your partners from cheating and your children from going astray. i dont know whats right whats wrong and there's no point dwelling about that.

but you know what, i thought about it and i must say that part of the problem is the lack of communication. if i'd lived in a family where open discussion is encourged, i'd told my mom about my views towards drugs, sex, and my friends' views about them. but in most families, telling your parents anything is like asking for a verdict you never needed.

you say, 'i think this guy in my class is cute'
your mom says, 'he is the last in class and have horrible fashion sense. he's bad influence. you are too young for a relationship. stay away from him.'
your dad says, 'i'll spank him the next time i see you talking to him!'

would you ever tell your parents about your crushes ever again?
so don't ever blame your kids for not telling you anything. it's precisely this lack of communication that leads parents into prying their kids' privacy. and this stirs the rebel in the kid and it just keep getting worse.

if we can identify with the kids above, why don't we apply that to our relationships. afterall, open and willing communication builds the most trust.